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So, it happened.

You met someone who seemed like a dream. They were obsessed with you—in a good way (or so you thought). They wanted to know everything about you. You felt seen, chosen, wanted.

You got the good morning texts. The all-night calls. The fast “I love you” and even faster “I can’t live without you.”
You thought, “Wow. Maybe I finally found the one.”

Then—like a switch flipped—it all went dark.

You were love bombed. Then you were gaslit. Now you feel wrecked.

But you’re not alone.
And no, you’re not “crazy.”
You just survived one of the most confusing forms of emotional abuse there is.

Let’s break it down.

What is Love Bombing?

Love bombing is emotional manipulation that feels like intense affection.
It’s when someone showers you with praise, attention, gifts, or declarations way too early—and way too intensely.

But here’s the catch:
It’s not real love. It’s control wearing a disguise.

They want your trust fast. They want your boundaries to melt.
They create a high so addictive that when they start to pull away, you’ll do anything to get that “love” back.

Some common signs of love bombing:

• “You’re my soulmate” within days
• Constant texting and checking in (then punishing you for not replying fast)
• Pressure to commit quickly
• Guilt-tripping when you ask for space
• Over-the-top compliments that feel a little… too much, too soon

Sound familiar?

Then Comes the Gaslighting

Just when you’re invested—they change.
They pull back. Get colder. Start pointing fingers.
You’re too clingy. Too emotional. Too “negative.”

You try to bring up how things feel different, and suddenly…
You’re the problem.

Welcome to gaslighting—when someone manipulates you into questioning your own reality.

They say things like:

• “That never happened.”
• “You’re making a big deal out of nothing.”
• “You’re so dramatic.”
• “You always twist my words.”

At first, you push back.
Then you start to doubt yourself.
You reread your messages 10 times.
You apologize even when you didn’t do anything wrong.

It’s not just confusion. It’s psychological warfare.

The Aftermath: Broken, Shaken, and Spinning

When you finally break away—or they discard you—you’re left in pieces.

You might be:

• Exhausted
• Obsessed with understanding what went wrong
• Missing them even though they hurt you
• Googling “was I emotionally abused?” or “signs of a narcissist”
• Wanting them back… while also wanting to throw your phone into the sea

Let’s be clear: what you’re feeling is valid.

Breakups are hard.
But breakups after emotional manipulation? That’s a full-blown identity crisis.

Now What? (Real Talk for Healing)

You’ve been love bombed. You’ve been gaslit. You feel broken.

So… what the hell do you do now?

Here’s a roadmap—not to “fix” you, but to help you remember who you were before they rewrote your story.

1. Go No Contact (or as close as you safely can)

I know. It’s hard.
They’ve trained you to crave their validation.
But every “just checking in” or “I miss you” message? That’s a hook.
And you don’t need more bait—you need peace.

Silence is not petty.
It’s protection.

2. Create a “Truth File”

When your brain starts romanticizing them (which it will), pull out receipts:

• The text where they flipped on you for nothing
• The memory of how you felt walking on eggshells
• The journal entry where you admitted, “I don’t know who I am anymore”

Write it. Print it. Read it back.
Because trauma bonding makes you forget.

3. Talk to Someone Who Gets It

Not everyone will understand.
People might say “but they seemed so nice!” or “at least it wasn’t physical abuse.”
Ignore them.

Find the friends, the therapist, the coach, the Reddit thread, the group chat—the ones who believe you.

Your story matters. And you’re not crazy for still missing them. That’s the trauma, not weakness.

4. Let Yourself Feel Everything

Anger. Grief. Rage. Guilt.
You don’t need to rush to forgiveness.
You don’t need to “be the bigger person.”
You don’t need to do anything but let it out.

Cry. Scream into a pillow. Write breakup poetry.
You don’t have to be okay yet.
You just have to be honest with where you are.

5. Start Reclaiming Yourself—Bit by Bit

You don’t have to leap into “healing mode” overnight.
You can start small:

• Wear something they didn’t like
• Reconnect with a friend they discouraged
• Take yourself on a solo date
• Listen to music that makes you feel you

Every time you choose yourself over their shadow, you win a little piece of your soul back.

Final Truth: You’re Not Broken—You Were Bruised by a Lie

You are still whole. Still worthy. Still loveable.

You are not “too much.” You are not “crazy.”
You’re someone who believed in connection—and that’s a beautiful thing.
They abused your trust. But they didn’t erase your spirit.

And now?

Now you rise.

Feeling this?

Comment below or share this post with someone who needs it.

You don’t have to do this alone.
And you don’t have to keep pretending you’re okay when you’re not.

This is where the healing begins.
This is your breakthrough.

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